OK.. here’s my little list of things that make me well and truly glad that I am unattached right now..

• I don’t have to answer to anyone – “Where have I been? That’s none of your fucking business, sunshine.”
• I don’t have to wrangle over the quilt in bed at night.
• I don’t have to have those conversations with my friends.. “Yeh, and then he said…, and I was all upset, I mean why is he acting like that?”
• I don’t have to pretend that I’m not bothered that somone won’t hold my hand in public.
• Going to sleep is so much easier when you’re not lying there awake, wondering why he won’t hold you in bed.
• Buying new underwear is so much more liberating when I know nobody but me will see it. I don’t care if he might like it, or if he doesn’t like it, I like it. I don’t care if someone might think my ass looks huge, because they’re never going to see it.
• I don’t have anyone trying to stop me from going running at 10pm on a cold night.
• I don’t have to sit through conversations with someone running through my bad points.
• I don’t feel disappointed with my sex life anymore. My sex life over the past few weeks has been better than over the past few years.
• I don’t have to lie and tell someone – “It was great”
• I don’t have to worry about someone else’s happiness or spend time doing what they want to do.
• I never have to be referred to as someone’s “girl..” – anything, or “My…” – anything.
• I don’t have to worry whether someone thinks I’m fat, eating too much or not eating enough, running too much or not running enough.
• I’m not worrying about the possibility that I care about him more than he cares about me.
• It’s not crossing my mind ever to wonder if someone’s lying to me, I’m not looking for clues in their behaviour, or what they say. I can take people at face value when my heart and my happiness doesn’t depend on them telling me the truth.
• I can go out with my male friends and not prepare the “It’s just a few drinks with five male friends, who are all attached or gay. It’s not a gang bang, no I don’t fancy any of them, and if any of these guys who I have known for years and years tries it on with me, I’ll be sure to tell you – you’re more than welcome to tag along if you feel the need to assert your authority?”

I’ll think of more, I’m sure..